Pushing as though you are trying to poo works for some people. If you insert a finger and it hurts, try to relax. One is on the outside (butthole) the other one is right behind it. There are 2 sphincter rings of muscle in the anus. This is an area that you do not want to rush because of the possibility of pain and injury.
(the vibrations help ease the discomfort)īeing an anal virgin (first time) you will likely want to take things slow. A small 'narrow diameter' vibrator could also help. Open up with something small in diameter, such as a finger or a small butt plug. You will need to relax as much as possible (which means don't panic or be afraid) Try not to clench your butthole, because doing so will tighten you up and you want to be loose enough for penetration. The guy you are with needs to be patient and not be in a rush to put it in. (if you have never done any butt play with insertion) It takes time, patience, and remaining as relaxed as possible to open up for anal sex.
